Are You a Giver?

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Giving, giving, giving…

How well do you relate to being a committed and caring person?

You don’t just leave, or selfishly take, do you?

Late one afternoon, about 2 years ago, I found myself in the supermarket. The weight of a recent breakup is present, and I stand before the shelves, about to choose a carton of oat milk.

As my hand reaches for a more affordable brand, tears well up behind my eyes, and a profound sadness settles in my chest.

“Wow”, quietly escapes my lips as a realization dawns on me:

I don’t think I deserve the same quality as she did.

In the past, I would've grabbed the premium brand she favored. But now, single, I’m about to settle for something cheaper, not because I prefer it, but because I don’t have to pay as much for myself.

Tears stream down my face.

This is how much I’ve put others before myself, I think to myself while trying to cover up my tears.

Yes, I genuinely care, and I hope you do too.

Generosity has always been my way of life. I feel a profound sense of pride in being there for others. However, when it comes to receiving, or being generous to myself, I struggle.

Do you easily ask for help?

Do you easily receive help?

Are you comfortable accepting compliments, or do you swiftly brush them away?

See, giving, giving, and giving is a way to seek love and validation, while simultaneously keeping people at a distance - an act to protect yoursef from truly being seen.

If you are a giver,

I think you are well too familiar with the results:

• Takers gravitate toward you.

• You avoid anything even remotely associated with conflict and selfishness at all costs.

• You feel unseen, struggle to charge your worth, and have absolutely zero time (and energy) for yourself.

Did I forget something?

Learning to receive is transformative - a better balance will usher the best into your life.

Especially if you can recognize how it's already affecting your relationships, money, and potential.

Unless you're content with continuing to perform above and beyond, constantly proving yourself, never truly feeling seen, valued, and loved.

Treat yourself as a premium.

Since that afternoon in the supermarket, I've kept that front and center, and the results have been nothing short of remarkable.

My ex-girlfriend and I now share a peacefully friendly relationship, and I feel a sense of tranquility in openly communicating my value in business.

Learning to receive has fundamentally changed the way I value myself and the way others value me.

Perhaps it can do the same for you.

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Two months from now,

You’ll look back and be so proud of having stopped holding back and settling for less, that you will marvel with joy (and possibly even break out into a twist and shout).

Enjoy,
Erik